145 interesting questions to get to know your roommate
Think of what you do as exchanging stories, without running a checklist. If you ask questions about cleaning habits, share yours (“I’m a vacuum person for a week – and you?”). This back and forth prevents things from feeling unilateral and shows that you are also invested for space to work.
If you discuss before moving in, keep it relaxed but intentional. Suggest to have coffee, jump on facetime or even exchange a few quick vocal notes to browse the bases. Show that you pay attention by following their answers (“You said you work on the nights – Do you need total silence during the day?”). These small moments of connection gave a friendly tone and both help you avoid unwanted surprises later.
If you meet for the first time the day of the move, press the natural conversations when you unpack. Suggest to order a pizza or take a quick break to walk to a neighboring coffee. Ask things in a way that invites stories instead of yes or not answers (“How do you usually spend a Sunday?” Works better than “Do you like Sunday?”). In this way, you can open the door to shared experiences and help the cat to feel like a good link – not just a settlement session.
The personalities, the interests and the senses of humor all shape a roommate experience as much as that informs when. However, even the most compatible personalities can compete without clear basic rules! Use the practical roommate questions below to make sure you are both satisfied with the operation of your space. Then, superimpose questions “get to know yourself” that will help bring not only functional, but fun.
Practical questions to ask a new roommate
Knowing good things to ask for potential roommates do everyone. Practical questions get all parts on the same wavelength, so that you can understand what each person needs space and prevent surprises from non-preparation later.
You don’t have the opportunity to ask these questions before committing to living together? Try to cross them early in your first week as roommates.
- What is your usual schedule on weekdays?
- What time / delay will you generally go to bed? Are you a morning of the morning or a night bird?
- How often do you have guests? How many notice should we aim to give each other?
- What are the reflections on night guests, both the kind of meeting and the friends crash (after an evening, for example)? What about the company outside the city?
- How do you like to keep the shared space in appearance – super stored or a little lived?
- How do you prefer to relax at home: socialize in shared spaces or be independent and do your own thing?
- How to divide cleaning tasks?
- How often do you like to cook? Food allergies?
- Do you prefer to share certain articles (such as spices, condiments) or keep everything separately?
- How should we manage apartments of apartments (i.e. paper towels, toilet paper, cleaning products)-like shared purchases or in turn?
- What is your position to borrow clothes or personal objects?
- What do you think of music or volume of television in shared spaces?
- What is your favorite way to divide public service bills?
- Do you agree with scented candles, incense or diffusers?
- Do you smoke or vape?
- What do you think of pets? Allergies?
- How do you usually manage conflicts when it appears?
- Are you no longer “sending me a text” or “knocking on my door” for communication?
- What do you think of the decoration of shared spaces – a joint effort or “do your own thing”?
- Do you agree to divide subscriptions to things like streaming services?
- Do you prefer to lock the door even when someone is at home?
- How should we manage the repairs or the communication of the owners – a point of point or anyone who notices it first?
- Pets tickets or non-negotiations that I should know?
Personal questions to ask your roommate to know them
After addressing the practical things, you can go to the fun part: find out who your roommate is. These questions go beyond logistics to reveal the personality, the interests and all the small details that make the sharing of a more personal space.
