This toxic dating trend is so much worse than ghosting
You are very happy in your relationship. Everything seems to be fine, you send SMS every day and you come together several times a week. Then there are fewer messages and something continues to go up. But your partner continues to act as if everything was fine. Suddenly, unexpectedly, it’s over: they left faster than you can ask “why?” Except that everything seems to have been meticulously planned. It turns out that you have been a victim of banks.
What is “banking”?
Before a breakup, there should ideally be a detailed conversation where the two parties discuss the relationship and decide whether it is worth fighting or not. Not with Banquerie. This trend in meetings is called Banksy, the anonymous street artist and political activist, whose epigrams tend to appear apparently from nowhere. Banksy plans in advance, makes secret art and then disappears as if he were never there. It’s the same with Bankying: the person has been planning the breakup for months but has not been talking about it. Then, all of a sudden, they spring up the rupture, leaving only pain behind.
This phenomenon is not necessarily new; It has just been renamed as a trend of meetings in the constant expanding glossary. Pre-internet, he was previously known as the Irish farewell, French leave or the Polish exit.
Why are people Banksy on us?
The simple answer: they want to avoid difficult conversations. Instead of engaging in a conversation that could reveal that they must work on themselves, Bankying allows someone to completely avoid confrontation and make the decision without their partner.
The result? The person who makes the banking has enough time to prepare for the break and in emotional conclusion on the relationship. But the other person will feel blind and will eventually doubt himself. They will spend months going through all the scenarios of the last months and will try to understand what they have done wrong.
However, there are cases in which the bank is the only option. If a person is in a toxic or violent relationship, then the bench of their path can be their only solution. Especially if the partner has violent trends, then a concrete plan and a quick getaway are the best ticket.
How can you avoid being Banksy-Ed?
With a good banksy, you will not see the break at all. It all depends on how it is manipulator or good to act your partner. It could be difficult to recognize the signs, but these pointers can give you a clue:
The greatest signs of banking:
- Communication becomes less
- Intimacy and proximity become infrequent
- Conversations on the future decreases
- They offer more and more excuses for not having time to see you
- Important conversation subjects are no longer raised
- They no longer talk about you both in one unit
