5 signs of an inferiority complex that could be killing your self-confidence
“You must either be impeccable or you are a failure,” explains Martinez. “There is no understanding area or gray.” Not only is this thought, everything or nothing is inaccurate, but it also does not leave room for nuance, self-compassion or growth. (And really, how could someone be confident when their brain feeds them such ruthless thoughts after small deadlines?)
3. You even interpret gentle comments as proof that you fail
Person enjoy Receive a constructive criticism. But even the lightest and well -intentioned suggestions can strike as personal attacks for those who fight with an inferiority complex … and be enough to trigger a spiral of shame.
An occasional comment of your boss on improving a task, for example, could be interpreted as a confirmation that you suck your work. (UGH, why did they even hired me? Everyone knows that I don’t belong.) A soft comment of your partner on how you could have managed the disagreement last night differently can suddenly become proof that you are an inadequate person who deserves to be thrown.
“When we receive comments, it is normal to have a moment of self -doubt. We feel bad, but it generally goes, ”explains Martinez. However, “some people could ruminate or obsess it for days, because it strengthens all these negative things that they already believe in themselves.”
4. You look at the victories of others and you automatically wonder what is wrong with you
It is almost impossible not to do it to a certain extent (thank you, social media highlight the coils). However, with inferiority complexes, these comparisons do not only feel like moments of envy. Instead, they become a goal through which you judge your value … or rather, your perceived lack, according to Bryant.
That someone announces a new concert, share an update of the commitment or publications on their impressive lifting Pr, your mind could run with thoughts like: “No matter how much I try, I will never be as good as that person” or “I am clearly not talented enough, otherwise I would be where it will be.” You don’t just want to have what they had – you are convinced that there is something defective in your home so as not to measure.
5. You really try, really difficult to win the approval of others
If you are convinced that you are missing in one way or another as you are, it is logical that you can feel the pressure to “win” your value. Because when you don’t think you’re enough alone, external praise and approval become your only life buoy to fill this void. This is why, with complexes of inferiority, “there is often this real Olympic people who pleads for practically no limit,” explains Martinez.
