Janhvi Kapoor on loss, empathy and mourning on her own terms
When Janhvi Kapoor lost her mother, the legendary Sridevi, she also lost privacy to cry. “Imagine losing your mother and it is an entertainment for half of the nation,” she recalls in her vogue wedding book cover.
Each reaction has been examined. If she smiles, she was “too good”. If she was silent, she was “too cold”. She adds: “My sister and I never let them see the cracks, and because of that, people felt that they could throw us mud, that we are not really human. It has taken up empathy and sympathy completely out of the question. ”
Psychologists explain that sorrow is not linear. The process often takes place through denial, anger, negotiation, depression and acceptance; There is no defined chronology. “Human beings are unique individuals, and our experiences vary considerably. It is impossible to put a strict calendar for each phase, it is therefore advisable to encourage people to assess whether the mourning person is stuck in one of the phases or not, “notes Dr. Nicole Nasr, a consulting psychologist and speaker visiting City, at the University of London. In other words, sorrow is individual, just like healing.
“It is unfathomable that it can become a meme,” adds Kapoor. “The loss is one thing, but the damage that came afterwards made me cynical on human nature.”
His words resonate beyond glory. For anyone endured the loss, the truth is simple: sorrow is not like a meaning. Some people withdraw, others continue. Nothing makes pain less real.
For Kapoor, the most difficult but clearest lesson was that mourning is not for public consumption. And perhaps the most radical act is to cry according to your own conditions – imperturbable, private and without the need for the approval of anyone.
Photographed by Farhan Hussain
Stylish by Devanshi Tuli
Hair: Yianni Tsapatori / Tap The Artists Project
Makeup: Management of artists from Savleen Manchanda / Eficitédede
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