Do straight men love other straight men more than they love women?
S asks to have drinks with me. She needs to let off steam on B, her boyfriend and one of my nearby friends. During his second neat whiskey, tell me that B has not yet said “I love you”. They have been going out together for three years. On the other hand, after a jubilant round of FIFA last weekend, she saw him hug and embrace a male friend, before shouting “I love you!” Three times in his ears.
“So he can say the words, but just not for me?”
Years ago, I was interviewing an Indian superstar in his stamp when he received a halfway. The actor, then at the end of the twenties, took over and took the cat with romantic and sexual insinuations. In any room, this interaction would be considered a hardcore flirt. The actor launched generous helps “Babys” and “Jaanus”, the person at the other end, returning them just as fervently. At the end of the call (with a game of “Pehle Tum Rakho, no baby, Pehle Tum”), he said: “He is one of my best friends, guy, loves him to death.”
From dance floors to football fields, hetero men actively express their affection for their male friends with the language and gestures put aside for interactions with the opposite sex. They believe that imitating exaggerated female gestures, acting as a spouse, using the romantic language platonically, tightening the pectorals of his gym partner or groping the groin of a friend are expressions of tension. Are hetero men expressive as long as their behavior saw through a pink lens?
“I know that my close male friends are not gay, they know that I am not gay, so we can really do and say what we want. It’s extremely liberating, ”explains Arjun, the 33 -year -old technology brother. “With women, even a simple kiss on the cheek is not only a kiss. She reads, I think if it was too much. Everything I do with her is analyzed and dissected in her group cat.” What Arjun Pointes is the deductible for heterosexual male equations. There are no diapers, no emotional labyrinths. Heterosexual friendships survive despite the distance and zero communication skills. The best friends could spend all their time playing video games in silence. The tightest gangs could bind to the cricket conversation. Male friendships do not need regular affirmation. Or perhaps it is the absence of an emotional outlet between hetero men who triggers these aggressive access to physical affection.
