Have a friend who disagrees with you on everything? The internet is finally calling them out
Some characteristic panels that you could cope with this type of toxic contrari include:
1. They interrupt your happy moments
You are halfway through an exciting story on a first meeting well or a promotion long awaited at work, when all of a sudden, they move with a boost: “Well, isn’t that only the first meeting?” “In fact, it is not a promotion – it looks more like an increase.”
2. They attach to non -relevant details
Maybe you tell a funny moment of the girls’ night or show the retro gem that you have marked in a vintage shop. Rather than responding to the biggest point, a counter-pass clings to something more trivial, like how, technically, This leather jacket is not really vintage, because the brand was only launched in 2010. In other words, they seem more obsessed with correcting you, underlines Dr Ferrari than connecting with you.
3. Their tone seems more sufficient than support
It’s something to check gently when you go objectively (as someone say, let’s say). But if their delivery seems more condescending (You know that the trend is not new, right? Or, It is such a basis), it is less a question of honesty and more judgment, according to Dr. Deghes-White.
4. They only act in this way with you
They are too sweet, attentive and united with others but cold, critical and disdainful with you. Maybe they roll their eyes only when you are enthusiastic about something or they don’t push the holes in your stories, but leave everyone’s shift. These are signs that this role as defender of this devil is not an innocent personality quirk: it may be a targeted attempt to overthrow you.
How to manage the contrary friend
Whatever the reason for their behavior, one thing remains true: dealing with a friend who does not agree all the time can be exhausting. Friends are supposed to lift you, not wear you with endless nitpicking.
“Everyone has a different threshold to tolerate a friend’s” poor “behavior,” said Dr. Degdes-White. “But if you find yourself fear of time with them or to avoid contact, it may be a good idea to have a heart to heart on what bothers you.” In the moment, you can consider gently setting the limits with a simple liner like: “Can I share something without it turning into debate?” Or “I’m not really looking for different perspectives – I just want to let off steam.”
