How being “too much” became every woman’s greatest sin

So as far as his One-Lord has become, this moment struck differently for me (and any other person who was marked “sensitive and intense”). As long as I remember, my daring shameless energy, the notoriously noisy voice and the tendency to cry easily (whether from a slight office stress or a sad animal video) have encountered shame and judgment. Calm down. Stop being so additional. You are … a lot. By dating, I have often found myself in the place of Amaya – to go down quickly, want to affection and to get out “what are we?” Long before it was considered socially acceptable.

So, as anyone was said to be too much, I tried to be less – or a version of myself that seemed “easier” for the world to manage. I learned to bite my tongue and calm my laughter, all in the name of taking up less space. I have lost years to play at meeting mind games that would prevent me from going out “too strong”, like waiting for an hour to open a text. I pretended to be little maintenance, cooling and non -booted when really, I have just been a little girl with big sensations.

But who decided that stoicism is equal to strength and that sweetness is something to hide? Or that it is “sticky” to ask for words of affirmation, but confident to act as if you are not careful?

The idea that the expression of emotion is in a way weak or inappropriate is a misogynist myth designed to keep us small, explains Sabrina Romanoff, Psyd, clinical psychologist based in New York. “There is a double cultural standard. What is called “passion” in men is labeled “too much” in women. ” We are rented to be attentive, warm and vulnerable, but only until these same qualities make someone other uncomfortable. Show affection from the start and suddenly, you are sticky and desperate. Tears in public and you are hysterical, disorderly and inudramatic.

This tired conversation does not only take place on Love island. The “disorderly” emotional heroine makes a wider return to our screens, like the new Netflix show by Lena Dunham (yes, well entitled Too much) Prove. In this document, we meet a broken New York who is chaotic, dislocated and wildly not filtered – many people who have made Dunham Girls Character, Hannah, so polarizing. Again Too much has already received complimentary criticism of tastes The New Yorker. Maybe after the boost of Girls, Dunham reports that she is on the joke: being too much is not an insult. In fact, Dunham poses with his new show, it’s realistic, wonderful and, dare to say, friendly to feel everything.